Relationship Advice of the Day 1/31/2014

In relationships, individuals will often say, "I LOVE YOU!" While I honestly believe that most men & women mean it, I also believe most of us struggle with loving without limits on a very basic level.
Love is patient. Love is kind. The definition of love given in Corinthians is the definition I agree with 100%. And the above two sentences are the basic foundation of LOVE.
Love is patient first because in order to love, you're going to have to be patient as you learn & get to know the other individual. Love is kind because there's going to be some times that you don't understand what was said or done, but you'll later find out that the intent was for your good and not your harm. If you constantly lose your ability to be kind, you'll miss the thought/intentions behind the other person's acts of kindness.
Men and women often want to be the important person in the relationship. They wanted to be about ME, ME, ME. I WANT, I WANT, I WANT. I need, I need, I need. When it's not they can become belligerent and refuse to show love, care, and concern for the other individual. This is not kindness. However, it it is a common practice in many relationships of today.
It's nice to be important, but it's MORE IMPORTANT TO BE NICE! Contrary to popular belief, being nice & kind is not weak. It's only perceived as weak by the spiritually unlearned. When you're nice to people that aren't nice to you for no reason, they heap coals of fire over their own head. You just continue to be nice, patient, & kind.
I've loved long enough to know the phrase, "kill them with kindness" is TRUE indeed. I encourage you, man or woman, to BE PATIENT, BE KIND, & to BE NICE!
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Relationship Advice of the Day 1/30/2014 - Be More Affectionate

Be affectionate! Many individuals, both men and women tend to be less and less affectionate in relationships nowadays. Often, both men and women will tell me they do not feel like being touched by their significant other OR touching their significant other. This tends to happen for various reasons in different relationships.

However, If you are in a relationship with sometime you say you love, this should not be the case. As children we are naturally affectionate. We naturally give and seek physical touch.

Experts agree that we need three to five hugs daily. However, the average person may not receive three to five hugs a week, let alone three to five hugs in a day.

Kiss more. Cuddle more. Hold hands more. Hug more. All these actions of affection release healthy endorphins into your body. These endorphins do wonders for your body and mind;  for both men and women.

My RAD (relationship advice of the da) is BE MORE AFFECTIONATE. Not for the purpose of sex or to get a favor or something from the other individual, but for your own physical, mental, and emotional health and wellbeing. And for the healing and growth of your relationship with the person you say you love.

Try for the next month or two. You'll be glad you did.

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Relationship Advice of the Day 1/3/2014

Relationship Advice of the Day - 1/3/2014
by Armani Valentino

"Ask for What you Want. Do not assume the other person knows what YOU want. They usually don't." 

Most couples seem to have an issue with their communication of their wants and desires. For some reason, one or both individuals will read into what is either being said or not being said, versus just openly asking for a better understanding. 

I was always told, "A Closed Mouth Doesn't Get Fed." If you are going to have a better relationship in 2014; that includes what you desire as well as what the other person desires, the both of you are going to have to communicate these desires more effectively. After communicating these desires, give it time to manifest. 

Not all desires will happen immediately. Therefore, you're going to have to be a little more patient. We'll talk about that in another post. Until next time, Claim the INCREASE, but also INCREASE the Climb ~ I'll SEE YOU at the TOP! ~Armani Valentino~ 

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