Relationship Advice of the Day 2/25/2014

Always, always, always
ask FOR WHAT YOU WANT.

If you know what you want there's no reason you shouldn't at least ask. The other person is not you. They are not in your mind. They more than likely cannot read your mind. Don't assume that they can.

Be specific in your asking if you know exactly what you want. You'll be surprised; especially when dealing with a man, how if you're specific, what he'll end up doing.

Men like to get it right. As long as you're not playing games when you're asking, and being specific, he'll try his best to come through.

Ask! Don't Assume. You'll be glad you did.

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New Study Reveals the Top 5 Relationship Deal Breakers for Both Men and Women

Dallas, TX, 2/12/2014 - With
Valentine's 2014 weekend upon
us, many will start new
relationships and others will
strengthen their current
relationship. On the other hand,
there will be another group of
individuals that won't be able to
quite "seal the deal."

National Bestselling Author and
Relationship Expert, Armani
Valentino, releases new
independent study of the Top 5
Deal Breakers for both men and
women. He hopes that this
information will be used to help
improve male/female
relationships.

In the study, 73% of the
respondents were female and
27% were male. Over half (54.7%)
of the respondents were single
and had never been married.
Another 25% of the respondents
were divorced. The rest of the
respondents were either married
(12.5%), separated (6.3%), or
widowed (1.5%).

Nearly one-third (60.9%) were
between the ages of 30-39. The
second and third largest group
that responded was between 40-49 (17.2%) and 21-29 (14.1%);
respectively. The remaining
respondents were ages 50-59(4.6%), 60+ (1.6%), 17 & under
(1.6%).

The Top 5 Deal Breakers for Both
Men & Women

Amazingly enough, men and
women agreed on the first and
the last deal-breaker. The
respondents were simply asked
to list, in order of importance,
their top deal-breakers. Here
were the results:

Women & Men
#1 - Lying, Dishonesty
Untrustworthy, Not able to Keep
Your Word

#2 - (Women) - Financially
unstable, No Job, No desire for
more, No Ambition

(Men) - Not feeling morally
supported or Too Much
Negativity from mate

#3 -(Women) - Cheating &
Infidelity

(Men) - Lack of Sex, Bad Sex,
and Infrequent Sex

#4 - (Women) - Not believing in
the same Religion, Lack of
Spiritual Life, Disbelief in God or
Not Attending Regular Spiritual
Service

(Men) - Cleanliness of Body &
House, Unhealthy Habits
(smoking, drinking, drugs, eating,
etc.) &
Unhealthy Weight

Women & Men
#5 - Poor Communication,
Controlling, & Lack of
Compromise

Valentino says, "The results were
a little surprising to me. I was a
little shocked to see that finances
outranked, cheating & infidelity,
as well as spirituality and
communication." When asked
about why he thought this may
have been the case he stated,
"I'm not sure. However, I do know
that some of the women
admitted to me that they would
stay with a man they knew was
cheating before they stayed with
a man that did not make enough
money to do the things she
desired."

With much of life being viewed
almost instantly through social
media, access to the world at
large and desire to live like we
see others, may have had a
somewhat negative effect on our
male/female relationships.
Valentino agreed.

Whatever relationship category
you may be in this Valentine's
weekend, Mr. Valentino suggests,
"Make sure you know what you
want, and don't allow that to be
dictated or heavily influenced by
anyone other than yourself."

Armani Valentino is the author of
the National Bestselling book, 99
Questions You Must Ask a Man
Before Sleeping with Him &
Definitely Before Having SEX, and
9 other books including
bestsellers – The Love Triangle,
Why Do We Hurt Each Other, and
This Is Why I Won’t Marry You.
Since 2008 he’s been a Certified
Marriage/Family Champion for
the TwoGether in Texas. He’s
been featured on national,
regional, and local media since
2007, and is available for radio,
television, and print interviews
upon request.

Contact: Kelland L. Drumgoole,
PR/CMO
Phone: 972-781-8404 or 214-842-7149
Email:
kelland@armanivalentino.com or
info@armanivalentino.com
Website:
www.armanivalentino.com

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Be Tactful in Your Communication by Armani Valentino - Relationship Advice of the Day 2/20/2014

Always think multiple times before saying anything when you're in a heated discussion or argument with the other person.

One or both of you will end up saying things that you really don't mean. When most people are emotionally hurting, our brain is flooded with different hormones that clouds our judgement.

Therefore, be tactful in your ability to put the situation in its proper perspective. When you do this you're able to walk away and calm down.

Always try and discuss situations in the right mind frame, and in the proper emotional state.

Use tact.

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Armani Valentino is the author of
the National Bestselling book, 99
Questions You Must Ask a Man
Before Sleeping with Him &
Definitely Before Having SEX, and
9 other books including
bestsellers – The Love Triangle,
Why Do We Hurt Each Other, and
This Is Why I Won’t Marry You.
Since 2008 he’s been a Certified
Marriage/Family Champion for
the TwoGether in Texas. He’s
been featured on national,
regional, and local media since
2007, and is available for radio,
television, and print interviews
upon request.

Contact: Kelland L. Drumgoole, PR
Phone: 972-781-8404 or 214-842-7149
Email:
kelland@armanivalentino.com or
info@armanivalentino.com
Website:
www.armanivalentino.com

Find A Way by Armani Valentino - Relationship Advice of the Day - 2/11/2014

"When you really want to do something you find a way!"

One year for Valentines Day I got sick. I was in college at the time, and my college sweetheart and I were trying to see who could outdo the other. Well, she knew I was sick, had missed class, and couldn't go anywhere!

So, my original plans were scratched. According to her, "When you called me and told me you were sick, I knew you wouldn't outdo me!" Boy was she wrong. Lol...

I remember getting on the phone and making calls to friends that knew us both. I finally reached Stephanie Warfield​​. She came through for me, and helped me fulfill my Valentines Day surprise. My college sweetheart gave a great gift, but she was perplexed at how I still was able to pull off what I did; even while I was confined to my apartment.

Moral of the story, "Love is a powerful motivating force! If Love is the purpose, you can always find or make a way!" 

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

Love Me or Leave Me Alone - Relationship Advice of the Day by - Armani Valentino 2/10/2014

As simple as this may sound, for the majority of folks it's extremely difficult to do.

As I think about my most enjoyable and loving relationships, they LOVED ME & I LOVED THEM. There wasn't a lot of back and forth, second guessing, or concern with what others had to say about the relationship.

Other people and second guessing brings confusion. Confusion only breeds more confusion.

Either be HOT or COLD, and not LUKEWARM.

1. Make your mind up about the person and why you loved them in the first place.

2. Understand what thoughts you have about the person. Are they YOUR original thoughts or someone elses. Most of the time, they're someone elses thoughts; not your own.

3. Make a decision and stick with our! NOTHING CAN STOP A MADE UP MIND. Not even temporary defeat. And understand that defeat is almost always TEMPORARY!

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

Set Goals & Work Together - Relationship Advice of the Day by Armani Valentino - 2/7/2014

"Two are better than one, for they have a good reward for their service..."

The above are words of wisdom from King Solomon. In today's time, most couples don't set goals together. Both parties are usually too busy doing their own thing.

Individuals are literally being individual, versus being a team united towards common goals. You can do a lot by yourself, but two people in agreement can literally accomplish anything. Matthew 18:19

So, it often behooves me that more couples don't set goals together. I guess for some reason one or both are often competing against one another.

Many times, the skills that both individuals have can be put together and produce amazing results. I encourage you to set goals together. I encourage you to achieve goals together. And in doing so, this will strengthen your relationship and add some passion back into it.

Be sure to be open to change and to trying one another's ideas. Or better yet, be open to ideas that may be better than what either of you could have done on your own.

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

Pick Up the Phone & Call - Relationship Advice of the Day 2/6/2014 Armani Valentino

With email, texting, and social media being the main forms of communication, many relationships of today suffer greatly from lack of interactive face-2-face, heartfelt communication that helps establish a deep connection.

Relationships will continue to fail and marriages will continue end in divorce as individuals seek deep connection that only comes through genuine communication on all levels. And since most people seem to want to avoid the work that it takes learn how to communicate, it may seem as if there is no help.

Sex seems to be the only connection that individuals seek. While this is a very powerful connection, it's one on the lowest level. When there's a true meeting of the minds and spirit, the physical/sexual is often not explainable in words.

So, as opposed to living and communicatingin this virtual reality, next time pick up the phone and let the energy of your voice be heard and felt. You can even go one step further and actually invest the time to meet up face-2-face.

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

When Things Go Wrong-Relationship Advice of the Day 2/5/2014

In life, things sometimes go wrong. When this happens sometimes it may not be anything you had any control over.

However, the one thing you can control, is the way you respond to it.

We're all humans and we make mistakes. When a mistake is made within a relationship. We often think that the person made the mistake on purpose.

Many arguments happen over trivial things that aren't relevant to life in general or a happy relationship. Arguing over small things that don't go how you think they should often tears down the fabric of the relationship. It negatively affects the bond between the individuals; sometimes to the point off no repair.

As the famous unknown poet wrote, "When things go wrong, as they sometimes will. When the road your traveling seems all uphill. When the funds are low and the debts are high. When you want to smile but you have to sigh. When care is pressing you down a bit...REST if you must, but DON'T YOU QUIT!"

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

Do not Criticize, Condemn, or Complain - Relationship Advice of the Day 2/4/2014

In one of the bestselling books in the last 100 years, Dale Carnegie states, DO NOT CRITICIZE, CONDEMN, or COMPLAIN.

I've realized that complaining about complaining is still complaining. So, to be able to develop the habit of seeing the bright side or positive in the situation, versus criticizing or complaining about it, is important for relationship success.

There's almost always more than one way to accomplish the desired result.  Whatever way that is for one person may not be the same for another; and that's ok.

Look at the bright side of things rather than searching for something to CRITICIZE, CONDEMN, our COMPLAIN about.

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

Keep Your Mouth OFF ME - Relationship Advice of the Day 2/3/2014

Growing up, we were always told, "If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all." I now understand why.

Words have the power to HEAL, BLESS and PROSPER! They also have the ability to curse, condemn, & discourage.

What are you truly saying to your significant other, family members and friends? Are you edifying and building them up? OR Are you tearing them down by the words from your mouth?

According to the LAW OF ATTRACTION, What you say of others will also be said of you. What are you sending out into the Universe on a daily basis? Whatever you're sending out is what you're getting. So, never think of it as strange when you hear someone say the same thing to you that you said about someone else.

Words are powerful! Very POWERFUL! Be careful what you say to the ones you say you love.

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

7 Relationship Rules for Superbowl Sunday Relationship Advice of the Day

1.) Have fun!!!
2.) Keep Arguing & Offensive words to a minimum.
3.) If you really don't know FOOTBALL, just enjoy the game! You don't have to comment w/ all the so called experts & has beens watching the game with you.
4.) Root for YOUR team & DON'T FLIP FLOP!
5.) Don't drink too much. Nothing is worse than a drunk spouse or significant other at a Super Bowl Party.
6.) Save any outside/personal issues & conversations, UNLESS they are truly LIFE & DEATH, until AFTER the game.
7.) Don't take it personal. You're not on the field. And, WIN OR LOSE, it's not the end of the world. There's always next year.

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship & life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions, workshops & conferences, private consultations &  coaching sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404

Relationship Advice of the Day 2/1/2014

Enjoy a moment to yourself every single day. Those moments don't have to be hours and hours. But... they are so very important to the long term success of your relationship.

I would advise that it be in a quiet place or on a walk or something. Not alone time with TV, radio, etc. Quiet time. Mediation alone for 15-30 minutes are another great way to enjoy a moment alone.

Alone time allows you too refresh & renew your mind, body, and spirit. It helps you be able to be the best you can be in ALL your relationships. It also keeps you from having the feelings of being OVERWHELMED! 

Feeling overwhelmed brings undo and unneeded stress to yourself and others around you.

So, take a small amount of time daily for yourself by yourself.

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Armani Valentino is a national bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship & life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions, workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404