Tuesday, April 8, 2014

I AGREE - Relationship Advice of the Day 4/8/2014

Just to hear the words, "I AGREE!" does something to the hearts and minds of men, women, and children.  However, most of the time, in our personal relationships hearing these two words, let alone an actual agreement taking place, is a rarity.

The miracle you're looking for in your relationship is in the #POWEROFAGREEMENT. The ability to get to an agreement can make all the difference in the relationship.

Stop being disagreeable for disagreeable's sake. That's immature and only makes your relationship less than what God may have intended it to be.

Communicate with your partner as often as possible with no preconceived ideas. Let the communication be open & honest.

Always focus on what you agree on, as opposed to the few things you don't. It will help tremendously.

Remember, LOOK FOR THE AGREEMENT.

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Armani Valentino is available for books, consultations, speaking engagements, relationship & communication coaching, and more! Please visit www.ArmaniValentino.com for more info. You may also call the office directly at 972-383-9234

Monday, March 31, 2014

Can I Get the Bullet Points? - Relationship Advice of the Day 3/31/2014

So, I was on the phone with one of my best female friends who has been in my life for over 10 years.

We were talking about this blog that you're currently reading. She asked me, "Why don't you blog more often?" She then commenced to scold me before I could fully answer her question.

As we laughed about it, I started to answer. Before I could fully answer the question, she interrupted and said, "Can I get the bullet points?" We laughed hysterically.

I realized that in relationships of all kinds, it is important to have the desire to want to hear the other person in order for the communication to remain respectful, uplifting, and fruitful. Otherwise, it will not be beneficial for all parties involved.

The other realization came when I asked her, "Did you like what you read?" She didn't answer. I asked again. She still didn't answer. So, I asked, "Did you read any of my blog posts?" She deflected the question with laughter and a few questions. We laughed and she finally said, "Yes. I read your posts and I liked them." That made me smile.  ;-)

I have many things that I do, and I don't always know if people are appreciating or reading what's being put out. As an entrepreneur, my time is the most valuable asset I possess. Therefore, it is very important to know what is being shared, read, valued, etc.

The same goes for relationships. You must let the other person know when you are pleased with what they've done. We often focus on what's not done correctly versus what we like and appreciate from the other individual.

Moral of the Story: Listen. Allow the other person to fully express their thoughts and feelings. DON'T BULLET POINT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Don't BULLET POINT your interactions. You might miss something valuable. When this happens, it usually causes MISS-Understandings. Meaning, you two have MISSED what the other one was meaning in a particular situation.

Lastly, value one another by expressing Words of Affirmation. Without these words one may often stop doing the one thing you like just because they were never AFFIRMED by you.

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www.ArmaniValentino.com

Monday, March 24, 2014

Take A Break - Relationship Advice of The Day - 3/24/2014

Sometimes, life can be extremely stressful. Our significant other can become the one person that gets our nerves the most.

When this happens, I say take a vacation for a couple of days. Go visit your mother or relative. While there, DO NOT speak negative about any issues you may be having. Just enjoy the time away.

Be sure to remind yourself that things really aren't that bad, and that you love the person, which is why you with him/her in the first place.

Take a break. It's okay.

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Relationship Advice of the Day 2/25/2014

Always, always, always
ask FOR WHAT YOU WANT.

If you know what you want there's no reason you shouldn't at least ask. The other person is not you. They are not in your mind. They more than likely cannot read your mind. Don't assume that they can.

Be specific in your asking if you know exactly what you want. You'll be surprised; especially when dealing with a man, how if you're specific, what he'll end up doing.

Men like to get it right. As long as you're not playing games when you're asking, and being specific, he'll try his best to come through.

Ask! Don't Assume. You'll be glad you did.

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Friday, February 14, 2014

New Study Reveals the Top 5 Relationship Deal Breakers for Both Men and Women

Dallas, TX, 2/12/2014 - With
Valentine's 2014 weekend upon
us, many will start new
relationships and others will
strengthen their current
relationship. On the other hand,
there will be another group of
individuals that won't be able to
quite "seal the deal."

National Bestselling Author and
Relationship Expert, Armani
Valentino, releases new
independent study of the Top 5
Deal Breakers for both men and
women. He hopes that this
information will be used to help
improve male/female
relationships.

In the study, 73% of the
respondents were female and
27% were male. Over half (54.7%)
of the respondents were single
and had never been married.
Another 25% of the respondents
were divorced. The rest of the
respondents were either married
(12.5%), separated (6.3%), or
widowed (1.5%).

Nearly one-third (60.9%) were
between the ages of 30-39. The
second and third largest group
that responded was between 40-49 (17.2%) and 21-29 (14.1%);
respectively. The remaining
respondents were ages 50-59(4.6%), 60+ (1.6%), 17 & under
(1.6%).

The Top 5 Deal Breakers for Both
Men & Women

Amazingly enough, men and
women agreed on the first and
the last deal-breaker. The
respondents were simply asked
to list, in order of importance,
their top deal-breakers. Here
were the results:

Women & Men
#1 - Lying, Dishonesty
Untrustworthy, Not able to Keep
Your Word

#2 - (Women) - Financially
unstable, No Job, No desire for
more, No Ambition

(Men) - Not feeling morally
supported or Too Much
Negativity from mate

#3 -(Women) - Cheating &
Infidelity

(Men) - Lack of Sex, Bad Sex,
and Infrequent Sex

#4 - (Women) - Not believing in
the same Religion, Lack of
Spiritual Life, Disbelief in God or
Not Attending Regular Spiritual
Service

(Men) - Cleanliness of Body &
House, Unhealthy Habits
(smoking, drinking, drugs, eating,
etc.) &
Unhealthy Weight

Women & Men
#5 - Poor Communication,
Controlling, & Lack of
Compromise

Valentino says, "The results were
a little surprising to me. I was a
little shocked to see that finances
outranked, cheating & infidelity,
as well as spirituality and
communication." When asked
about why he thought this may
have been the case he stated,
"I'm not sure. However, I do know
that some of the women
admitted to me that they would
stay with a man they knew was
cheating before they stayed with
a man that did not make enough
money to do the things she
desired."

With much of life being viewed
almost instantly through social
media, access to the world at
large and desire to live like we
see others, may have had a
somewhat negative effect on our
male/female relationships.
Valentino agreed.

Whatever relationship category
you may be in this Valentine's
weekend, Mr. Valentino suggests,
"Make sure you know what you
want, and don't allow that to be
dictated or heavily influenced by
anyone other than yourself."

Armani Valentino is the author of
the National Bestselling book, 99
Questions You Must Ask a Man
Before Sleeping with Him &
Definitely Before Having SEX, and
9 other books including
bestsellers – The Love Triangle,
Why Do We Hurt Each Other, and
This Is Why I Won’t Marry You.
Since 2008 he’s been a Certified
Marriage/Family Champion for
the TwoGether in Texas. He’s
been featured on national,
regional, and local media since
2007, and is available for radio,
television, and print interviews
upon request.

Contact: Kelland L. Drumgoole,
PR/CMO
Phone: 972-781-8404 or 214-842-7149
Email:
kelland@armanivalentino.com or
info@armanivalentino.com
Website:
www.armanivalentino.com

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Thursday, February 13, 2014

Be Tactful in Your Communication by Armani Valentino - Relationship Advice of the Day 2/20/2014

Always think multiple times before saying anything when you're in a heated discussion or argument with the other person.

One or both of you will end up saying things that you really don't mean. When most people are emotionally hurting, our brain is flooded with different hormones that clouds our judgement.

Therefore, be tactful in your ability to put the situation in its proper perspective. When you do this you're able to walk away and calm down.

Always try and discuss situations in the right mind frame, and in the proper emotional state.

Use tact.

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Armani Valentino is the author of
the National Bestselling book, 99
Questions You Must Ask a Man
Before Sleeping with Him &
Definitely Before Having SEX, and
9 other books including
bestsellers – The Love Triangle,
Why Do We Hurt Each Other, and
This Is Why I Won’t Marry You.
Since 2008 he’s been a Certified
Marriage/Family Champion for
the TwoGether in Texas. He’s
been featured on national,
regional, and local media since
2007, and is available for radio,
television, and print interviews
upon request.

Contact: Kelland L. Drumgoole, PR
Phone: 972-781-8404 or 214-842-7149
Email:
kelland@armanivalentino.com or
info@armanivalentino.com
Website:
www.armanivalentino.com

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Find A Way by Armani Valentino - Relationship Advice of the Day - 2/11/2014

"When you really want to do something you find a way!"

One year for Valentines Day I got sick. I was in college at the time, and my college sweetheart and I were trying to see who could outdo the other. Well, she knew I was sick, had missed class, and couldn't go anywhere!

So, my original plans were scratched. According to her, "When you called me and told me you were sick, I knew you wouldn't outdo me!" Boy was she wrong. Lol...

I remember getting on the phone and making calls to friends that knew us both. I finally reached Stephanie Warfield​​. She came through for me, and helped me fulfill my Valentines Day surprise. My college sweetheart gave a great gift, but she was perplexed at how I still was able to pull off what I did; even while I was confined to my apartment.

Moral of the story, "Love is a powerful motivating force! If Love is the purpose, you can always find or make a way!" 

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Armani Valentino is a national
bestselling author, publisher, consultant, speaker, relationship &
life coach, director, producer, actor, & renaissance man.

Books and other products/services
available @ www.ArmaniValentino.com

He is available for media appearances, panel discussions,
workshops & conferences, private consultations & coaching
sessions, and more by calling 972-781-8404